How to deal with being triggered

 Just admit you're triggered. 

It's the first step.

To getting off the rollercoaster of feeling triggered and reacting. 

If you watch others go through their rollercoaster, or if you're experiencing your own - it's never pretty.

Trigger (hurt) -> Escalate (anger, injustice) -> Deescalate (self doubt, guilt) -> Below baseline (sadness, overcompensation) -> and back around again. 

For all of us solvers, the cycle usually involves activating a solution in response to the trigger, which is even more complexity and depletion in the cycle. Being in the trigger-response cycle can feel like -

• there's always something to solve, or deal with
• people are always behaving poorly around you
• you can't ever just relax, or deeply feel like everything is good

Step 1. 

Most of us spend most of our lives in this cycle, that is until we work on stepping out of it.  Like any unhealthy pattern we experience, we heal as we see the pattern more clearly, and change it. 

Simply, seeing when we're triggered, and admitting it - even if just to ourselves, is a pre-requisite to applying interventions and pattern shifting. 

Step 2. 

Once you know you're triggered, the next step is to disengage. Coming up with simple repeat disengagement phrases is really helpful - it allows us to not have to think about communicating while triggered. Some examples -

I'm triggered and am going to take some space to figure out why. I'm not feeling right about something and need some time with myself. I think I need a quiet moment with myself. Excuse me, I'm going to meditate. 

Step 3. 

After successful disengagement - activate 'Operation All is Well.' Create Sanctuary. Do what calms you. Deep breaths work for everyone. The release and clarity that can come from journaling usually calms the mind. Shift into receiving mode by receiving a guided meditation, or sound healing, or oracle deck reading. 

Steps 4, 5, 6... Once calm, and no longer actively triggered, we can plant new perspectives, shift focus, and uncover unmet emotional needs. 

In doing so, we've turned the trigger into an opportunity for clarity on how to better meet our emotional needs, and fine tune our manifestations. We grow. We spend more time off the rollercoaster, and when we're back on we get off sooner. 

Don't worry, I was on my rollercoaster too.

Getting off sooner, Siva

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self healing practice

1. Practice recognizing when you are triggered. Admit it aloud to yourself, or to another. 

2. Choose a disengagement phrase, and use it every time you recognize your triggered state (even if alone, say it aloud). 

Bonus Points - 'Operation All is Well'